TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneM to 196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish · edit-22 days agothey can't make up for their rule with a heroic sacrifice eitherlemmy.blahaj.zoneimagemessage-square80linkfedilinkarrow-up1696arrow-down19file-text
arrow-up1687arrow-down1imagethey can't make up for their rule with a heroic sacrifice eitherlemmy.blahaj.zoneTotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneM to 196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish · edit-22 days agomessage-square80linkfedilinkfile-text
minus-squareTotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPMlinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up61·2 days agoThat’s fair. The real issue is when that redemption is not earned, or when the fact that the parent did love them is used to garner them sympathy from the audience. Love without action doesn’t count
minus-squareZulu@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up28·2 days agoYeah id be happy to see the parent attempting to atone, the child accepting that attempt, but still not forgiving them. And then here’s the important part, the parent keeps atoning even though they get no forgiveness from the child. So much about that abusive relationship is tied to control. You need to re-earn trust. Ive seen so many parents try to recognize their fuckup only for it to end in “well i tried once and the child didnt forgive me so screw that brat”
minus-squareKokusnussRitter@discuss.tchncs.delinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up6·2 days agoI agree. You need to reflect your own behaviour and adress it. Only then can this be meaningful.
That’s fair. The real issue is when that redemption is not earned, or when the fact that the parent did love them is used to garner them sympathy from the audience. Love without action doesn’t count
Yeah id be happy to see the parent attempting to atone, the child accepting that attempt, but still not forgiving them.
And then here’s the important part, the parent keeps atoning even though they get no forgiveness from the child.
So much about that abusive relationship is tied to control. You need to re-earn trust.
Ive seen so many parents try to recognize their fuckup only for it to end in “well i tried once and the child didnt forgive me so screw that brat”
I agree. You need to reflect your own behaviour and adress it. Only then can this be meaningful.