As a teen I talked to people from all around the world, usually connected by our shared fandoms. I remember talking to a girl in California who said she wanted to join the military when she grew up. Apparently she came from a military family, and couldn’t understand why I was appalled at the idea of choosing such a path. We discussed it civilly, and eventually agreed to disagree. I can’t help but wonder if she went through with it and, if so, how she feels about it today.
I’m curious what the alternative to “agree to disagree” is.
Agree to agree? Refuse to agree? Refuse to disagree?
Either you convince someone to change their mind or you don’t. If you don’t convince them then you either keep trying past the point where it is clearly futile or you stop trying. If both sides of a disagreement stop trying then they’ve agreed that they disagree.
Oh! I did think of an alternative. You could pretend to agree and secretly disagree. Is that what you are suggesting is preferable?
As a teen I talked to people from all around the world, usually connected by our shared fandoms. I remember talking to a girl in California who said she wanted to join the military when she grew up. Apparently she came from a military family, and couldn’t understand why I was appalled at the idea of choosing such a path. We discussed it civilly, and eventually agreed to disagree. I can’t help but wonder if she went through with it and, if so, how she feels about it today.
She was probably conservative enough to not regret it
You shouldn’t agree to disagree with people who want to oppress and kill millions of innocents.
I’m curious what the alternative to “agree to disagree” is.
Agree to agree? Refuse to agree? Refuse to disagree?
Either you convince someone to change their mind or you don’t. If you don’t convince them then you either keep trying past the point where it is clearly futile or you stop trying. If both sides of a disagreement stop trying then they’ve agreed that they disagree.
Oh! I did think of an alternative. You could pretend to agree and secretly disagree. Is that what you are suggesting is preferable?
Guess I’ll have to go back in time and tell my teenage self that, because you’re criticizing something that happened twenty years ago.