Nice slander from you asshole again, it was about visiting /tttt/ adjacent subreddits and I wrote about my experience how it actually has comforting effects for me personally. It’s just a place were trans people suffering from dysphoria can talk about and cope with their plight in an environment that isn’t full of toxic positivity and hugboxing.
Don’t talk about things your cissoid mind doesn’t understand, “No investigation, no right to speak”.
Also those aren’t “just” memes from 4chan (/lgbt/), they are trans memes by and for trans ppl from /tttt/ adjacent/inspired subs
not all supportive communities are toxically positive, and any community as obsessed with “passing” as 4chan might feel comforting in a doomery way but anecdotally every single trans person i know who went down the (smug and self reinforcing) self hating 4chan path has been noticably worse for it and every single one who nanaged to escape that spiral talks exclusively about it as something they regret
for the record, i do get the appeal - it /feels/ like it’s just painful honesty and, when you are used to not flinching away from painful truths about the word and the systems which shape it, it can feel correct that it should hurt to be trans (especially if you don’t “pass”). the problem is that, in my view, much of the painfulness of being trans or feeling like you don’t “pass” is directed at trans people by cis people - we don’t need to do it for them. you don’t have to set up a headquarters for the passing police in your own head. to not do so isn’t to become part of a “hugbox” - you can be honest and just not police (even when invited to do so) how other people and you yourself align with social expectations of the physical (and other) expressions of gender.
fuck that person for not understanding and me for getting carried away and writing too much; i just hope you aren’t embracing and perpetuating a community that feels comforting but is doing harm to you because that harm feels more correct to you than being truly and honestly accepted
First of all, thanks for not being condescending (unfortunately not a given with the cissoid and liberal hate/slander I got on here lol…)
I would just like to add that most of my misery is inherent to my sex dysphoria, nothing external (OFC external factors add up on top of that though). And it’s comfortable to share that misery in a community that can joke about it honestly and without impediments and that has some genuine positivity as well.
I’m talking about the good parts of the board (just lurked there for a while), but especially the subreddits and the dedicated Lemmy instance tranistan.com. It’s genuinely amazing TBH…
OFC it has a lot of self-deprecating ironony and cynical coping, but that’s just right up my alley in terms of personal taste.
Just a some examples (sorry for the spam ^^') from on there that just seem honestly wholesome:
Nice slander from you asshole again, it was about visiting /tttt/ adjacent subreddits and I wrote about my experience how it actually has comforting effects for me personally. It’s just a place were trans people suffering from dysphoria can talk about and cope with their plight in an environment that isn’t full of toxic positivity and hugboxing.
Don’t talk about things your cissoid mind doesn’t understand, “No investigation, no right to speak”.
Also those aren’t “just” memes from 4chan (/lgbt/), they are trans memes by and for trans ppl from /tttt/ adjacent/inspired subs
not all supportive communities are toxically positive, and any community as obsessed with “passing” as 4chan might feel comforting in a doomery way but anecdotally every single trans person i know who went down the (smug and self reinforcing) self hating 4chan path has been noticably worse for it and every single one who nanaged to escape that spiral talks exclusively about it as something they regret
for the record, i do get the appeal - it /feels/ like it’s just painful honesty and, when you are used to not flinching away from painful truths about the word and the systems which shape it, it can feel correct that it should hurt to be trans (especially if you don’t “pass”). the problem is that, in my view, much of the painfulness of being trans or feeling like you don’t “pass” is directed at trans people by cis people - we don’t need to do it for them. you don’t have to set up a headquarters for the passing police in your own head. to not do so isn’t to become part of a “hugbox” - you can be honest and just not police (even when invited to do so) how other people and you yourself align with social expectations of the physical (and other) expressions of gender.
fuck that person for not understanding and me for getting carried away and writing too much; i just hope you aren’t embracing and perpetuating a community that feels comforting but is doing harm to you because that harm feels more correct to you than being truly and honestly accepted
First of all, thanks for not being condescending (unfortunately not a given with the cissoid and liberal hate/slander I got on here lol…)
I would just like to add that most of my misery is inherent to my sex dysphoria, nothing external (OFC external factors add up on top of that though). And it’s comfortable to share that misery in a community that can joke about it honestly and without impediments and that has some genuine positivity as well.
I’m talking about the good parts of the board (just lurked there for a while), but especially the subreddits and the dedicated Lemmy instance tranistan.com. It’s genuinely amazing TBH…
OFC it has a lot of self-deprecating ironony and cynical coping, but that’s just right up my alley in terms of personal taste.
Just a some examples (sorry for the spam ^^') from on there that just seem honestly wholesome:
lol
It’s only memes from a Nazi site that was supported by rich Nazis. Just only…