Other people say I put too much trust into other people, I’m not sure about it, I just think horrible conditions in the past have made people rabid and afraid of others.
Dodecahedron of hate Torus of tolerance Isocelese of isolation
When someone stops me to ask me for directions, I glance around for people about to jump me.
I trust everyone until they give me a reason not to. It’s given me a lot of grief and trouble but it’s also given me so many beautiful moments and interactions and friends so I don’t plan on changing.
Idk, I’ve developed a system to determine how much i can trust each individual.
Over time i observe the behavioral patterns of an individual to somewhat determine what’s their strong side or what interests they have. Based on that i can figure out how much i can trust them and with what tasks.
If it’s something they’re good at/interested in and they have something to gain from it and the overall mistake rate is low. I can trust them fully.
Now if it’s something they’re not that interested in, theres nothing to gain from it and they have a high mistake rate. Then i cant really trust them with said task.
Of course it’s not full proof, anomalies/surprises can happen, but those shouldn’t be taken into account due to very low chance of happening.
what you describe is more like dependency than trust, imo
Fair, I’ve always suspected it’s not specifically trust, but something else. What would trust look like then?
In a way I think it’s more negative. As in you often expect that a person you trust cannot/wouldn’t do things, particularly if they harm you or your interests. The “cannot” side leads closer to dependence, again⁺ imo, but overall you’d also be more vulnerable than someone who’s merely willing to benefit from asking for a favour.
I’m not sure I’m following you.
Are you on the Epstein list ?
I’ve trusted the wrong people too often for my liking, and figuring out the why’s and the how’s might be my next therapy goal. There are so many possibilities for reasons relationships fail, at this point I’m not starting from a conclusion. I just want to investigate.
I trust people with information about my life because they cannot hurt me with truths I know and share, and I trust most people not to be violent maniacs so I don’t have to be in fight or flight all the time I’m around them (and you can usually tell when they are). As such, I’m a very friendly guy who talks to and listens to everyone. I don’t really need people one way or another though (yes, it comes from a somewhat difficult and lonely childhood but at least it’s made me independent), so I don’t mind letting them get close and I don’t have any expectations of them besides the basic ones. I trust people to be people, not to be mentors or even helpful (and I always appreciate it if they are!).
