(speaking here as khemehli, with help from cela)

so i have been well aware of the tropes that trans girls are very submissive and love to receive puppygirl treatment and so forth (sadly often neglecting the existence of enbies).

but i also have recognized that i am not that submissive, so my thinking is that there are surely others who are like me in this regard.

of course while conjecture is fun and all, i wanted some numbers. my methodology was to figure out if my closer transfemme friends (n=4) would let me leash them. a couple of them (n=2) i have already put on a leash in the past, so that leaves the other two.

for the first friend i was thinking “eh, there is a decent chance my conjecture holds true for her but i’m not too sure” and for the second “xe is definitely going to say no”.

yeah turns out i was entirely wrong and they both just went “oh yeah totally!”. so each time i went ahead and grabbed a leash and collar from my purse, approached them, gently fastened the collar around their neck, and then clipped on the leash. it was really really cute n fun heheh (and no not in a sexual way)

as thanks for their contributions to science, each participant was awarded with a yummy chocolate treat hand fed to them (and headpats and praise).

so moral of the story uhh this is clearly not enough data and i need to ask more transfemmes if i can leash them.

yeah thank you for coming to my TED talk 👍

something else funny of note: when making this post, we first put in the title and accidentally hit post never having actually typed out anything. we deleted it seconds later but its still interesting to see how many upvotes it got despite having ZERO content lol

  • Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    3·
    2 days ago

    I may not be the fabled trans girl Domme but I am the slightly less rare (but still highly prized) trans girl Switch.

    Meaning I’ll leash one day you but I’ll also let you leash me the next day.

    Except everyone else in the community is a dyed-in-the-wool submissive so it’s not like I would get to be leashed anyway. Such is the tragic life of a trans girl Switch.

  • Noel_Skum@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    45·
    4 days ago

    I don’t really understand any of this post (mainly because I’m a non-Blahajian outsider) but everybody seemed to have fun. Good luck with your future research.

    • L3ft_F13ld!@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      26·
      4 days ago

      Honestly, same. Looking in from the outside and seeing how fun all the queer folk here seem, I just can’t understand how people are so scared and angry about them.

        • L3ft_F13ld!@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          5·
          3 days ago

          Which is so sad to me. I’d love to meet some of the people I’ve seen around here. They just seem genuinely pleasant and fun.

          And as someone living in a backwards shithole on the Southern end of the globe, I don’t really have much opportunity to meet many queer people.

  • Mok98@feddit.itEnglish
    20·
    4 days ago

    Very interesting research, you should definitely have a bigger sample size, usually 30 is a minimum for a reliable study. I’m looking forward to your future publications

    • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMEnglish
      6·
      4 days ago

      I’m disappointed it didn’t mention catgirls and how they relate to puppies. Meowing is just the standard greeting, regardless of if they’re a cat, a puppy, or none of the above.

      • 𝑀𝑒𝑔𝒶𝓃@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        4·
        3 days ago

        Same!!! How could Jay do us dirty like that! She even made it sound like being a puppygirl might offer more liberation from patriarchy. There are some interviews on youtube but so far no one has asked her about catgirls! I’d almost email her, but surely her inbox is flooded with catgirl questions.

        Edit: Wait! Jay recently gave a new interview! BDSM Practices in Contemporary Poland. Guess that’s what I’ll be listening to tomorrow…

  • applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    13·
    4 days ago

    ive never been leashed but id try it :3 i already know i like being choked and bitten on the neck so being leashed would probably activate similar neurons. being a good girl and being told what to do would also be very nice hehe.

  • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    5·
    4 days ago

    My experience of two trans women would seem to back up your theory. They also enjoyed being showed off, which was fun :-)

    • velma@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      8·
      4 days ago

      It’s highly dependent on the participants being good at their roles and that is an incredibly difficult dynamic to put in place.

      • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        5·
        4 days ago

        Sometimes … like all skills, it needs practice and willingness to learn. Also, humility to know when you don’t have the knack for a particular thing, which is why I stay in the gentler end these days.

        • Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.worldEnglish
          4·
          3 days ago

          Hmm, sex is supposed to be a recreational activity, not work. I’d rather skip the amateur dramatics and just engage in good ol’ fashioned oral. Always the most reliable way to make her sound like a brain damaged farm animal.

          • sharkweek@sopuli.xyzEnglish
            3·
            3 days ago

            Oh, my sweet summer child. Being proud of being ignorant is not a great way to go through life.

            It’s ok that you’re vanilla, it’s nothing to be ashamed of

            • Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.worldEnglish
              2·
              3 days ago

              It’s not ignorance. I’ve done a bunch of less vanilla stuff (probably a greater variety of things than most people) It just doesn’t interest me. I find it distracting and performative.

              “Oh my god I’m so hot for you!”

              “Wait a minute while I fetch 25 m of rope and check which of the toys are charged. Do you remember where I put the violet wand?”

              “I think it’s in the drawer with the butt plugs”

              15 minutes later your all set up and about to actually begin, and your youngest child wakes up because of all the noise you made setting up the st Andrews cross and starts banging on your door. It’s the only banging that’s happening that night.

              Alternatively you don’t allow a cool down time while you get ready and just start eating her like a fat kid at an all you can eat cake buffet until she is reduced to a quivering mess unable to move and you both pass out from exhaustion in the wet patch. You can also just pick up where you left off any time during the night whenever one of you regains consciousness.